Commandment #7   Leave a comment

“You shall not commit adultery.”  Exodus 20:14, NIV.

Marital unfaithfulness is devastating.  It destroys the relationships that exist between spouses, between parents and children, between children and children, between extended families, and many time, between friends and even church families.  There seem to be no limits to the destruction that can potentially be caused when one spouse has “relations” outside of the boundaries of marriage.

I have personally seen just how much damage that can be caused by such activities.  The result is the breaking of trust, which is probably one of the most difficult aspects of relationships to repair.

When God established the institution of marriage, He created it to be a lifetime commitment that should never be broken.  However, knowing that human nature leads to the most remarkable abilities to sin in our lives, He knew that this particular sin would be a problem.

In fact, Jesus even stated that this one sin could be used as justification to end what was supposed to be a never-ending bond.

“It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”  Matthew 5:31-32, NIV.

Remember, the basic rules developed in Old Testament times gave men the right to divorce his wife for pretty much any reason he could develop.  If he didn’t like her cooking, she’s outta here, and so on.  Women of Biblical times were treated as property; something that could be treated as poorly as the ‘owner’ desired.

God desired the unity between man and woman to be pure and based on love.

Unfaithfulness to ones spouse can also be described much like that of the previous commandment concerning murder.  Jesus said in the same message found in Matthew chapter 5 that if a man looks at a woman with impure, lustful thoughts, he is guilty of adultery.  I’ll be an equal opportunist here and say that this same principle applies to women.

Maybe this will help you understand:

When it comes to our relationship with the Lord, our heart takes the lead and brings us into a closer relationship with Him daily.  When it comes to our relationship with our spouses, sometimes, our head takes the lead and allows us to entertain moments of weakness that can affect our thoughts and sometimes our actions.

Try this if you want to have complete victory over adultery, no matter what form of it in which you have been or are being tempted…

1. Revisit your wedding vows.  Diane and I have a video tape of our wedding.  It’s a great laugh, naturally.  I originally wrote this devotional two days prior to our 15th wedding anniversary, looking forward to viewing the tape again.  We never wrote down our wedding vows, but that tape will serve as a reminder to us of what we promised to God and one another that special day.  Vows are critical to a marriage and must be taken seriously.

2. Commit yourself totally to your spouse.  I am convinced in my heart that there is no one anywhere in this world better suited for me than Diane.  I have absolutely no desire for anyone else because I am also convinced that she is the one God chose to be my partner in life.  If God chose us for each other, why would I possibly want someone else?

3. Pray for daily assistance in keeping your thoughts pure.  This will help you as you face daily living in your human condition.  Satan want you to not just look, but to look again and use your imagination.  If Christians were more devoted to having their minds “transformed” into Christ-likeness, then adultery would be much less of a problem.

Don’t let your own mind betray you.  Be faithful to your spouse.  Be faithful to God.

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